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Your Happy Place


We set out to LIVE a beautiful life, but somewhere between survival and the pursuit for happiness we forget to live altogether. 

As unbelievable as it sounds, it happens to even the best of us. Certainly, there are many reasons why this happens, but the main cause is our disconnection with who we are—the part that not only thinks but feels. You know very well the part I am referring to.

The thing about getting caught up in this trap is that you do not realize you are caught until you are out of it. This is when you realize what you have been doing wrong for far too long. You have been running away from yourself, and you have been looking in the wrong places because it all starts from inside of you.

This is the place where you feel at peace and one with yourself. How do you arrive at this place? Not by train, or a car or by foot—if that is what you were thinking. It is not a location. A happy place is not even as fickle as a state of mind because a state is something that fluctuates. A happy place is a space that you find yourself in, energetically, mentally and emotionally. A little part of it is to do with acceptance of turn of events in your life. A larger part of it is to do with embracing life, and embracing yourself and living your life from a pro-active, positive space. It is about following your heart, and being grateful, and about living from a space of love.

What we often forget is this: Our universe and everything else, including us, are made up of energy. We are energetic beings. We forget that we are in charge of our experiences in real-time, as they take place because we can control our energetic space, and therefore, change the quality of our experiences.

It is a space that you carry around with you no matter where you are, and it is a space that you live from. It is not a fake state or acting like you are happy, or laughing loudly so that you appear happy. You cannot find it in a person, a place or an experience unless you have found it in yourself first.  Your happy place is not so far out of reach. Once you plug into this stream, you will experience your life turning around. There may be scientific explanations and spiritual insights to it, but for now just know that you have been here many times, and you have reached here effortlessly but unconsciously. You can arrive at this place consciously if you choose to get out of the rut you have put yourself in, and break the walls around your heart. You feel unhappy because of a chemical imbalance but once you are plugged in, your subconscious mind creates the balance that you need by releasing the happy hormones.

You will find yourself in a good place when you accept who you are (and if you can’t, then change yourself –who is stopping you?). Stop fighting with yourself and everything around you. The chains on your feet are imaginary. Take everything lightly (everything means every single thing that has happened to you so far in life, including mistakes, failures, and all the crap), and finally, learn how to live with who you are.

Like Alice, you cannot go back to yesterday because you are not the same person you used to be. You are not half of what you used to be yesterday, and you are not half of what you can be tomorrow. In life, there are no rules except for one rule, and that is to live it. That is why you are here in the first place. Begin by accepting your life the way it is, and from here move forward to where you want to be. Go after what you want, direct your life with your mind. Once you are connected, you will know what to do and where to go, and your life will flow more smoothly than it has for years.

Keep on trying until you find yourself in that happy place, and trust me, you will know you have found it, and once you do, you will never want to let it go.


Written by Jal Patel

Photo Source: My Happy Place by Jal Patel

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