Do you believe in the unconditional, timeless, sacred type of love? Can love like this exist amidst a modern day culture of impatience and instant gratification?
The Twin flame phenomenon is all about this unbreakable soul connection between two human beings. The soul split into two when it fell from its godhead (or Oversoul) eons ago and now part of the trial is to experience the pain of separation deeply enough to find their way back to each other, before merging as one again. Even though they are two halves of the same soul, they never-the-less split into two whole souls, yet still belonging to the same flame. Twin flames are referred to as half souls not because they are half souls as such, but because they are a pair that belong to one another. At a deeper level, they will always feel incomplete without the other. The heart-wrenching journey of finding a Twin and merging back as one comes with its own higher level lessons and challenges—mainly that of divine love, sacrifice, selflessness, and redemption.
Only true love can open our hearts, bring us the ultimate lesson, and teach us to move beyond body consciousness and ego. It’s only through sacrifice and love that our souls sanctify. Love, whether romantic, for our children, for the nation, or for a cause—has the power to move us from self to selflessness; to move us beyond our physical body and touch a higher consciousness.
Plato wrote about Twin Souls 2,500 years ago. Linda Goodman wrote about Twin Souls in her books decades ago, before the time of the internet. Rumi penned the essence of this kind of spiritual love in his poetry. This is the kind of love that the world has known, and witnessed time and time again, and mistook its intensity for insanity. Its origins are not studied carefully enough so this sort of love is often spurned as a romantic notion. Why does then the heart-wrenching, soul-stirring love of these lovers that we often see depicted in films and books deeply touch us?
In some way, we all relate to this sort of love, and long for it, whether consciously or unconsciously. We’ve experienced this longing for the other half now and then, we’ve searched that part of us in the eyes of soul mates around us. Those of us, who are destined to meet our halves in a present lifetime experience this deep longing and pull incredibly more than the rest of us. This is simply because if one twin has incarnated on earth at the same time as the other, both will sense it at a deeper level and always be aware of each other, no matter who they are and where they might be.
It often happens that though we sympathise with the lovers that we never meet—we are not ready to accept the same kind of love when it is seen in our own lives with friends and family. We prefer not to ruffle feathers. Instead, we choose to adhere to the norms of our society and think practically. The love that the world has tried to stop, reject and sometimes dishonour, has often ended up as a tragedy that has stirred the hearts of many and helped to raise the consciousness of the planet. Love like this will naturally face hardships and opposition because it does not belong to this world; it’s not of this world. It’s love made in heaven.
It’s rare for Twin Flames to incarnate together, so when a “medium” or some “expert” promises you to help bring your Twin Flame to you, know it is sentimental claptrap! The medium can help you validate if the person is your twin or not, and in some cases astrological alignments will indicate this connection. But no one can bring your Twin Flame to you because should you both be on earth at the same time, nothing can stop you both from finding one another. Remember, the Universe conspires for Twin Flames to meet, but only when it is the right time. Having said that, Twin Souls rarely take birth together in the same lifetime. One remains in another realm while the other is on earth. When they do take birth, it’s carefully coordinated and everything is orchestrated by their Higher Selves and Guardian Angels. Their meeting and everything in-between is synchronised because the purpose of bringing them together in one lifetime is not romantic, but spiritual.
Earth is a school, as you will often hear me say, we’re here to spiritually graduate from one grade level to the next. Only those who have reached the higher-grade levels will qualify for this final exam—that of meeting their other halves in the same lifetime. Most of us don’t have this option because it would be too intense an experience for us to handle until we’re spiritually ready.
Many people feel that they have found their Twin Flame, but most of the time they are soul mates, not Twin Flames. Soul Mates are soul family members whom we deeply love and have travelled together through many lifetimes. Soul mates can change roles in every lifetime, so may appear as a spouse in one life, a friend in another, a sibling or a parent, or even a teacher in another. These are our loved ones that we travel with through every lifetime. Soul Mates are different from Twin Flames. Over the years, I’ve learnt to recognise signs that tell me when two people might be Twin Flames. It’s one of my favourite topics and that’s why I have dedicated an entire chapter on the incredible love of Twin Flames in my upcoming book, THE BIGGER PICTURE.
Twin Flames recognise one another through the eyes, as do soul family members and soul mates. Eyes are the windows to the soul. Sometimes we recognise our loved ones by their energies. All souls have a spiritual name that is only known in the astral world, and because Twin Flames are one soul, they share the same soul name. Every soul name carries a unique vibration and it’s this vibration that attracts Twin Flames to one another. They recognise and resonate to one another through this familiar energy; it gives them the feeling of being finally home.
They may be different in many ways yet they compliment one another perfectly. They fit together. They are two as one, or rather, one as two.
Written by Jal Patel
Cover photo: Rajasthan by Kannan Muthuraman
You will miss her.
You will wake up in the middle of the night remembering she is no longer by your side.
Your stomach will flip. The pang in your chest will suck the air out of your lungs. The pain will wrench your heart emotionally. It will be so strong that it feels like a physical pain.
You will cry relentlessly. Your soul will cry out her name. You will demand to see her face.
You will want her back.
You will feel that this is a mistake. This is not how it was supposed to be. You hope this was a nightmare that you would wake up from to find her next to you—everything the way it was before she left.
She left you abruptly.
There was still so much left to do. These thoughts will make you cry all over again. These thoughts are the most painful ones.
If only you could see her and hold her now. You want more than anything in the world to hold her. To see her smile, to wrap her arms around you and say it is okay.
It feels unfair.
You feel your life is over. You are just going through the motions. You can never truly live without her.
If she could send you her words across, she would tell you that she loves you beyond life itself but she had to go. She would tell you that with a smiling face.
She would tell you that your life is not over.
She would remind you of how much you have to look forward to. She would show you of the blessings to come. Blessings that would make you want to live again.
She would tell you that her time was over. This is what you both had agreed to, very bravely, prior to your arrival on earth.
She changed you. Helped heal you. She gave you courage. It was in preparation for this—so that you could face life without her now.
She spent the most beautiful moments with you.
She came to assist you in your growth. Look how much she helped you transform. You have to make her proud and show her that you are walking on the path that she paved out for you.
You will see her again.
Do not ever doubt that.
You will hold her in your arms again. No one would know when that would be. There are certain things that we can never know.
The Universe works in a mysterious way. This was not an accident.
It was her time to go. You could have done nothing more to save her even if you had tried.
Please know that you will be together one day. In spiritual time it is almost time. In physical time it feels like forever.
This is an interval. It is a part of the play.
Up until that time, she would want to see you happy. She would want to see you living your life purpose and doing what you need to do. She would want to see you picking up the pieces and putting them back together to create another beautiful picture.
She will always be with you, in your heart and in your spirit.
Do you know you meet her during sleep?
You know the times when you felt like you had knocked out? The times when you felt that you could not cope with life without her a minute longer, then fell into a deep, dreamless sleep but woke up feeling stronger?
Those are the times you meet in the astral realm. Don’t worry where and how.
You tell her everything, like you used to when she was on earth. She listens and laughs. She guides you to what you should do.
She reminds you of the pact that you both made prior birth—of separation. Of how you have to become stronger and move ahead without her at this point. So you can evolve and become the person that she would be so proud of.
I will not tell you that one day you will forget her.
Because you will not.
You will never forget her.
She is a part of you.
And no one will ask you to forget her.
You have to move ahead with her love in your heart, her invisible hand in your hand, with her by your side in thoughts.
She in the meantime has other things to do too. She is busy fulfilling her plans. You are a part of her and will always be.
You will never forget her, but your pain will heal over time. The memory forgets eventually. But the soul will never forget. The heart will remember.
The minute you remember her, it will be as though she is with you. Her memory will overwhelm you, punch you in the gut. But then it will be gone.
And you will be stronger. That is how you will slowly heal.
For now, take this separation as an interval. Give yourself time.
It will hurt.
Talk to her when it hurts, especially as you fall asleep. Tell her how much you miss her. She will let you know that she hears you. She will let you know that she is still there.
It is okay you can. And the only one who can heal you right now is her. And she will do that. Her love will help you move forward. No one will take her place. Her place in your heart and soul is safe.
Take care of yourself as she would have taken care of you. Don’t force yourself into doing things that you are not yet ready for. Let yourself heal.
The most important thing I can tell you is that you will be together again. For now, life feels unfair.
But find your happiness.
When you feel a little stronger, find your happiness. You have pacts with many other soul mates.
Do not worry about your little ones. They are stronger than you think. They naturally live in the now that helps them heal quicker. They are taken care of and healed during sleep as well. Invisible helpers surround them.
When you miss her too much, cry.
Cry it out it is okay. A part of you went with her. You will never quite be the same. You are now trying to understand this new person that you are. But remember, she also left a part of her with you.
Hold on to that part.
Let the pain heal. Look at those who need you.
But then try to get busy. Live in the now. Take it a day at a time. Slowly, try to keep your mind occupied in the present moment. Do it when you are ready.
Start with little things at a time. Slowly, you will start to become stronger to face life again.
Because you know, you will be together again.
Don’t listen to what anyone tells you otherwise.
Don’t listen to your mind.
Listen to your soul and heart.
Life is temporary. Souls are eternal.
Every blade of grass, every drop of rain, every gust of wind, every swell of tide will tell you—you will be together again.
Trust the Universe and your life plan. Trust that there are no random events in an intelligent Universe.
Live your life for her. Dedicate it to her.
You will be together again.
Written By: Jal Patel
Photo: Dragonfly Tatoo (Click on image for source)
A collection of 10 Poems
by Jal Patel
I love poetry. I always have. I don’t sit down to write these words; they simply get hold of me. The words flow smoothly like that. Some are new; some are old. “Inspire” was written a few days back, and “Sacred Fire”, 26 years ago. Poetry for me is more than just words; it has a melody, fragrance, taste, a touch, and a feeling. I love the fact how poems communicate to every individual on a personal level and become an intimate conversation between the two that a third person will never know.
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Let me fall like a tear
from your eyes
Still burning and tasting of you
And as I fall let me rise
Like the sun from your eyes
igniting, uniting, merging
back into you
~My Sacred Fire~
Like a pearl
I sink to the depths of your soul
And with my naked palms
Your naked heart I hold
Trust me, I whisper
My eyes in yours, yours in mine
I don’t hold any poison, I don’t hide a knife
In your soul I polish your gold
I am not a thief, I am not a liar
So throw your doubts
In my sacred fire
~Not Meant To Be~
What more could I have done
I have laid my life down
for the friend to walk on
I have ripped my heart
and let it bleed
And it makes no difference
When it is not meant to be
Nothing you do is ever enough
~Hope is Eternal~
Hope is eternal my friend
Never loose hope
To have hope is to have faith
in the Universe
As long as you hold on to hope
There is a possibility
of a way appearing
Where there is no way
O what irony!
And the universe laughs
To see what lengths
Those who love are willing to take
To become so heartless.
~Open Your Heart~
Open your hands
when asking for something
How will you receive anything
with closed fists?
Open your heart
when asking for something
How will you receive anything
with a closed heart?
If you’re not willing
to open your hands
or your heart
You might as well not ask.
Ego worries about beginnings and endings
for the soul
there are no endings and no beginnings
You are an eternal being
Every good moment spent yesterday
Is just a thought away
And tomorrow is already a part of today
Begin the year rooted in the centre of your being
In your power,
in this knowing
What a world
like a child’s playhouse
where everything can be bought and sold
with few pieces of paper and gold
What belongs to you?
It is all an illusion
real possessions are that of soul
that what you came with
that what you take
when you go.
Why do you cry then?
What was yours is
there is no place for ego
If there is ego
There is not enough love
The fire of pure love
Is too sacred
For anything else other than love
Everything else must burn
A journey is made step by step
The same way as life is made
moment by moment
Leave a part of you for others to find
When they walk that way